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SPECIAL NOTE TO PASTORS
When I read that the divorce rate in the Church was no
different than it was outside the Church something rose up inside
me in indignation. It ought not be so! That was when I got angry
enough to pray about starting Marriage & Family Savers. We have a
very specific mission: To bring down the divorce rate,
first in the Church, then in the communities we impact.
There are few opportunities like this one for the Church to be
seen as being relevant to the hurts and needs of people. Not only
do we have a responsibility to guard this sacred institution
ordained by God, but this also provides us the opportunity to
bring Christ into the lives of hurting people who are looking for
satisfaction in all the wrong places. Christ is still the healer
of broken marriages and families. It's up to the Church to
provide the answers of life to a dying culture. If we don't do
it, it won't get done. We must be concerned with the long term,
should Jesus tarry. The Church can be effective by adopting a
three step long term plan which will bring immediate impact:
1. Conduct a Saturday Seminar to teach the truth about divorce
and provide the tools and inspiration needed to save and enrich
marriages in the church. Please e-mail me at
bill@marriageandfamily.org with a preferred date and an
alternate date if you would like to host a seminar.
2. Of those who attend a Saturday Seminar some will be called
to go on for Marriage Mentor Training. As Marriage
Mentors these couples will take on the responsibility, under
pastoral direction, to conduct pre-marital and marriage
counseling on a lay counseling basis. They will be trained to
administer and use diagnostic assessments, to use effective lay
counseling techniques, and to recognize when the needs require
referral to pastoral or other professional counseling. We believe
that as we equip the saints for the work of the ministry in this
way, you will be relieved of some of the burden to do all the
counseling, and marriages in the church won't "fall through the
cracks" quite as often.
3. Perhaps the most difficult part of our vision will be to
bring clergy together to establish a Community Marriage
Policy. This is an idea that has been successfully
promoted in 26 cities by Marriage Savers Institute, Bethesda, Md.
The idea, is to come up with an agreed community wide standard
for pre-marital counseling, to better prepare couples for
marriage and to help identify those who perhaps should not be
married.
Where a Community Marriage Policy has been effectively
combined with a Marriage Mentor Program divorce rates have
dropped in entire cities. The Church can make a difference! We'd
like you to pray about becoming part of this deliberate plan to
redeem the institution of marriage, thus saving marriages,
families, and individuals for the restoration of our culture and
to the glory of God. We believe this is His heart.
A Personal note: Penny and I want to be
available for you, personally. We know the pressures of the
ministry. We've been there. If we can help you, please feel free
to call us in total confidence. We're also available for
preaching. If you have any questions at all please call me. We
want to help.
"...And he has committed to us the message of
reconciliation." -2 Cor. 5:19
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