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DO BE HONEST “I know, my God, that you test the heart and are pleased with integrity. All these things have I given willingly and with honest intent.” - 1 Chron 29:17 Honesty is a condition of the heart. It’s a desire and a willingness to be known inside and out, the good, bad and the ugly. It must be rooted, however, in a deep faith that God is in control, and He loves you. In fact He knows you better than anyone, and He still loves you! If God can love you the way you are, with all your sin (and He does see all of it) then shouldn’t your spouse be able to love you too? Honesty is being truthful, not only about our actions, but also our thoughts and our feelings, past, present and future! I know you’re thinking “I could never tell my spouse about the actions of my past, and maybe some of my thoughts and feelings in the present.” Join the club. The problem is that this club doesn’t enjoy the fullness of all that God has, because every undisclosed revelation about our actions, our thoughts and our feelings adds to the invisible wall between us. It becomes a part of us that is unknown to our spouse, and therefore a mystery that brings suspicion and insecurity. But if we walk in the light as he is in the light we have fellowship one with another and the blood of Jesus cleanses us of all sin.” (1 John 1:7) The more open and transparent we can be with one another, the more intimacy (“in-to-me-see”) we can have, thus the feeling of “oneness” Now we need to be careful and use wisdom as we’re sharing truth. We don’t want to just dump on each other and burden one another down with a load of stuff, but we do want to be known for who we are. So we must seek God’s wisdom to speak the truth in love, always being concerned about building one another up as we are revealing ourselves to one another, as we are truly “knowing” one another. We may not be there yet, but let’s set the goal to be ever-growing in openness and honesty until one day we can fully share all our actions, our thoughts and our feelings and know that we are loved anyway. Let’s be men and women of integrity, honest and open with one another and giving the devil not even a foothold into our relationship. Question For The Both of Us: On a scale of 1 to 10 How open and honest do I feel our relationship is when it comes to our actions, our thoughts, our feelings, past, present and future. (Take each one individually) Prayer For the Both Of us: Lord, help us to move forward as we grow in integrity. Give us wisdom and grace to reveal ourselves to each other, to know and to be known. Give us the reassurance of your unfailing love for us just as we are. |
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